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HEALTH
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From grey hairs to our grey matter, a lot changes as we age – and sleep is no different. How much shuteye we require, and when and where we snooze, all tend to evolve throughout our lives.

According to the NHS, “a healthy adult” needs around seven to nine hours of sleep per day, although this may vary depending on your daily activities, caffeine consumption, physical or mental health conditions, and physical exertion.

“It’s important to say that there is a lot of variability between normal sleep times for different people,” says Dr Hugh Selsick, a consultant in psychiatry and sleep medicine at the Insomnia and Behavioural Sleep Clinic, University College London. “The best way to determine if you are getting enough sleep is if you feel alert and rested for most of the day, most days. No one feels alert and rested all day every day.”

Understanding how much sleep you need takes you one step closer to getting a better night’s rest. We have consulted the experts to help you sleep more soundly.
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MARRIAGE

Navigating Life's Big Roles: 5 Tips for a Successful Marriage Amid Family and Career Challenges

In the whirlwind of modern life, balancing the roles of a partner, parent, professional, and caregiver can seem nearly impossible. For those tending to children, careers, and aging parents simultaneously, maintaining a healthy marriage may feel like one responsibility too many. However, with the right strategies, couples can thrive despite these pressures. Here are five essential tips to foster a successful marriage while juggling life's demanding roles.

1. Communicate Openly and Frequently

Communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship, especially when life gets busy. It’s crucial for partners to regularly check in with each other, not just about day-to-day logistics but also about their feelings and frustrations.

• Set aside time for conversations. Whether it’s a few minutes each day without distractions or a weekly coffee date, make sure to connect.

• Be honest and transparent. Discuss your challenges and stresses related to parenting, work, and caregiving. Understanding each other’s burdens can foster empathy and support.

2. Prioritize Quality Time Together

With packed schedules, quality time can easily fall by the wayside. Prioritizing this time is key to keeping the marital bond strong.

• Schedule regular date nights. These don’t have to be elaborate—an evening walk, a movie after the kids go to bed, or a morning coffee together can all strengthen your relationship.

• Be present. During your time together, focus fully on each other by setting aside electronic devices and other distractions.

3. Share Responsibilities Equitably

Feeling overburdened can lead to resentment, which is toxic to any marriage. Sharing the load fairly, depending on each partner's capacities and schedules, can help mitigate this.

• Divide chores and caregiving duties. Use a system that works for both of you to allocate household tasks, childcare, and eldercare responsibilities.

• Be flexible and reevaluate as needed. Life changes and so should your strategies for sharing responsibilities. Be willing to adapt and switch roles as necessary to support each other.

4. Maintain Individual Identities

In the rush of fulfilling duties to others, individuals often lose sight of themselves. Maintaining your personal identity and supporting your spouse in doing the same can prevent a lot of marital discord.

• Encourage personal hobbies and interests. Supporting each other to pursue individual passions can lead to personal fulfillment and better mutual satisfaction in the relationship.

• Keep self-care on the agenda. Whether it’s exercise, reading, or spending time with friends, make sure both of you have time for yourselves.

5. Seek External Support When Needed

Recognize when you’re both stretched too thin and be proactive in seeking external support. This can include a range of solutions from practical to emotional support systems.

• Utilize resources for childcare and eldercare. Look into options like hiring help, using daycares, or finding community programs for seniors.

• Consider professional counseling. Sometimes an objective third party can provide valuable insights and strategies to improve communication and resolve conflicts.

Conclusion

Balancing marriage, children, career, and caregiving is undoubtedly challenging. Yet, with intentional effort, open communication, and mutual support, couples can not only manage but also thrive. Remember, the key to a successful marriage under such demanding circumstances lies in unity, empathy, and love. By applying these tips, partners can strengthen their relationship and ensure a fulfilling life together, amidst all responsibilities

FINANCE
Boomer Retirement Flop – Almost Half Do Not Have Retirement Savings

Nearly half of the baby boomers do not have enough retirement savings, and since wealth isn’t spread out evenly, younger generations will pick up the slack, which will reflect on their children. 

Over one in four have no retirement savings 

Census Bureau established that by 2030, the largest generation ever to reach retirement age will join 44 percent of boomers who surpassed 65. While many assume that the generation of boomers will be the last to enjoy a cushy retirement, the reality is different. Credit Karma’s survey revealed that 27% of people 59 or older have no retirement savings. 

Crushing reality 

Natixis company found that boomers believe they need $1.1 million to retire. The company’s study explained that boomers aged 59 to 77 would save $186,000 annually to achieve this goal. However, on average, people put $120,000 into savings, which is not disturbed equally. 

Choosing between parents vs. children 

Americans in their 40s, generation X or older millennials, got nicknamed the “sandwich generation” because around 50 percent of them have to help parents over 65 and have at least one child under 18. If the child is over 18, they are still helping them financially. The Pew Research Center survey, which came to this data, added that people in their 50s carry the same burden by around 36 percent, while those in their 30s 27 percent. 

The appalling wealth distribution 

The main reason people in their 40s have to support parents could be an astonishing wealth gap. According to Federal Reserve data, 56 million of those over 65 hold more than half of America’s money, or $96.4 trillion. They also make up 17 percent of the entire population. 

Younger boomers are in deeper troubles 

Younger boomers, who recently retired or have yet to reach 65
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YOUR KIDS

Helpful Resources And Strategies To Teach Kids About Online Safety
It’s up to parents and guardians to ensure children learn about how to protect themselves from the real dangers that are lurking in cyberspace.
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CARING FOR PARENTS

Navigating the Sensitive Decision: Advice on Taking Away a Car from an Aging Parent

One of the most challenging transitions for families is addressing the issue of an aging parent’s ability to drive. Driving is often synonymous with independence, and the prospect of taking away the car keys can be fraught with emotional tension and resistance. It’s a decision that not only impacts the parent’s autonomy but also their social and psychological well-being. Here are some thoughtful strategies to help families navigate this delicate situation.

1. Assess Driving Ability Objectively

Before initiating any conversation about taking away the car, it's crucial to assess whether it's necessary. The safety of your parent and others on the road is paramount.

• Consult with professionals. Seek evaluations from your parent’s doctor, or a driving rehabilitation specialist. These professionals can assess physical and cognitive capabilities related to driving.

• Observe driving skills. Go for a ride with your parent at the wheel to see how they handle various traffic conditions. Note any struggles with traffic signs, lane changes, or reaction times.

2. Initiate a Gentle Conversation

The way you bring up the subject can significantly affect how your parent receives it. Approach the conversation with empathy and respect.

• Choose the right time and place. Have the conversation in a quiet, private setting where your parent feels comfortable.

• Focus on care and safety. Emphasize that your concern is for their safety and the safety of others. Use "I" statements to express your feelings and avoid making them feel defensive.

3. Involve the Parent in the Decision Process

Involving your parent in the decision-making process can help them feel respected and validated. It’s important they recognize that their input is crucial.

• Discuss alternatives together. Explore other transportation options such as public transit, taxi services, or community shuttles for seniors.

• Create a transition plan. Help them see how they can maintain independence without a car by mapping out how to manage daily activities and maintain social connections.

4. Provide Emotional Support

Losing the ability to drive can be a significant blow to one’s self-esteem and independence. Be ready to support your parent through this transition.

• Acknowledge their loss. Recognize that losing the ability to drive is a loss and allow them space to grieve.

• Encourage new activities. Help them find new hobbies or community activities that do not require driving, which can help fill the void left by the loss of independence.

5. Use Formal Agreements If Necessary

If your parent is particularly resistant or if safety concerns are acute, it may be necessary to take more formal steps.

• Doctor’s intervention. Sometimes hearing from a medical professional about the risks can be more persuasive.

• Driving contract. Create a driving agreement that stipulates the conditions under which your parent agrees it’s time to stop driving, which can include certain triggers like a minor accident or a traffic ticket.

6. Legal and Administrative Measures

As a last resort, and if safety is a critical concern, there may need to be legal or administrative actions taken.

• DMV reevaluation. Reporting your concerns to the Department of Motor Vehicles can initiate a formal reassessment of your parent’s driving ability.

• Control car access. If all else fails, you may need to physically take away the car keys or the vehicle itself to prevent them from driving.

Conclusion

Taking away a car from an aging parent is not just about ensuring physical safety—it's also about handling the situation with compassion and understanding. By approaching the topic delicately, involving them in the decision-making process, and providing emotional support, you can help ease the transition. Remember, the goal is to maintain their dignity and independence as much as possible, while ensuring they remain safe on the roads

YOUR JOB
Supporting Caregivers: The ‘Sandwich Generation’ at Work

Are companies doing what they should to support employees who become caregivers?
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